The big “O”, climax, melt, cum, squirt…..or whatever else you call it. We are talking about the orgasm but not just one. We are going to discuss some tips and my personal experience to help you have multiple. This post is geared toward the ladies because, well, it is partly based on my experiences and vaginas are a magical thing. Women are literally built to come and come again.
What Is An Orgasm Exactly?
Don’t feel bad if you’ve asked yourself this question, science isn’t exactly clear on what they are. In fact, it wasn’t until the 1970’s that female orgasms were widely accepted. While the experience and intensity are vary from person to person, there are some similarities. For women, it’s an intense pleasurable release of sexual tension that is accompanied by contractions of the genital muscles. A minority of women may also ejaculate a clear fluid from glands near the urethra, called the Skene’s glands. Ejaculation occurs with orgasms for men followed by a refractory period. During that time a man cannot have an orgasms. Women do not have a refractory period. Thus, we can have multiple orgasms without a rest period.
Are Multiple Orgasms Really A Thing?
This is disputed as well by many people. From personal experience, I can tell you they absolutely are a thing. While I am capable of the big “O” over and over, I totally understand the skepticism. Approximately 75% of women can’t or don’t achieve an (yes, I mean one) orgasm during sex from penetration alone and 10-15% don’t achieve orgasm at all. If you are in this group, the ability to have multiple orgasms may not be what you’re aiming for but they can be applied and help you have one!
Get Your Vagina Ready
Literally, give it a workout. Strong PC (pubococcygeus) muscles are important in having multiple orgasms. Ladies, we all know what this means, more Kegels. Kegels are incredibly beneficial for many reasons too. Orgasms are essentially contractions of the PC muscles and pelvic floor. Strengthening them increases blood flow and allows you to have more control. I’m sure you all know the drill but if not, send me a message and I’ll send you some tips.
How Do You Do It?
Don’t expect someone to do what you can’t. Ladies, know your bodies and what you like. Do not rely on a man to inadvertently know what you like. When you start exploring multiple orgasms try to give them to yourself. Gentlemen, I know you want to watch but allow her do it alone. We don’t need the pressure of trying to perform for you while making our self cum over and over. Let her figure it out and clue you in later, it will be worth it. Start with clitoral stimulation with a vibrator or stimulator. We all know what happens when you achieve and orgasm. The clit gets extra sensitive and our instinct is not to touch it. If we are masturbating, this is usually the point we stop, but don’t. Give your clitoris time to recover and stimulate another area. Maybe that is nipple stimulation or using a dildo inside the vagina, whatever works for you. Stimulate that area for 30 seconds, one minute, two minutes……whatever time is best and stimulate the clitoris again. You may have to try manual stimulation or a lower vibration but you can climax again….and it will be amazing.
Fellas…..
Take everything I just told your woman to do to herself and use it to your advantage. You are going to use the same method. In my experience, it is easier to have multiple orgasms if you have different kinds. For me, I have clitoral, g spot and cervical orgasms. (I definitely plan to blog about the different kinds in the very near future). In order to have a g-spot orgasm, your woman must be hyper-stimulated. Start with foreplay and work your way to oral sex. Use your tongue to get her to cum and after that happens give the clit a rest. Like I said before, she may pull away and this is completely natural. During an orgasm there’s a tremendous amount of nerve pathways that are stimulated and increased blood flow that makes the area naturally more sensitive. Stimulate another area and allow that blood flow and sensitivity to decrease. After a minute or so, go right back and make her orgasm again. Back to back clitoral orgasms are definitely the way to have a toe curling g-spot orgasm.
Ready To Try?
Relax and allow your body to enjoy the process. Be open minded and understand that not everyone can experience multiple orgasms and if you can’t, it doesn’t mean sex is less enjoyable. Also, don’t try too hard. If you aren’t able to make it happen remember that the orgasms is just a part of the entire experience. Sex can be just as enjoyable with one, two or ten!
Nikki